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Megan’s Story

I never thought it would happen to us. I never thought we would be the 1 in 6. All I have ever wanted to do is be a mommy. And now we find ourselves on our fourth cycle with our fertility clinic.

I cannot begin to explain the emotional rollercoaster which is fertility. It never seems to end. It’s like going through the five stages of grief each month. If receiving consistent “no’s” or “sorry not this time” or “negatives” isn’t difficult enough to deal with, there is the added trauma of being surrounded by pregnant women and babies everywhere you go.
As a Paediatric occupational therapist, I find this even more difficult and have had many days where I have had to cancel patients because I just couldn’t go on.

Dealing with others responses are also so painful. The unwanted advice that comes your way and finding out that your closest friends are pregnant.

Fertility is an incredibly lonely, isolating and painful journey. No one understands or can even begin to understand unless you have been through it. It consumes your thoughts. It takes over every aspect of your life. You’re constantly reading into every “symptom” or response from your body and checking it out on google.

There is nothing that can prepare you for this. It feels as though it is unattainable and never ending. It not only drags you down emotionally but physically and financially too. The countless injections of hormones and scans takes its toll. I thought I had prepared myself enough for our first cycle but was so caught off guard with the physical side of the treatment and my body’s response. Learning that your body doesn’t respond to the same medication each time was also a hard lesson to learn.

The expense of infertility is overwhelming. Without any support from medical aids, it puts you in a strained financial situation.

We will still carry on fighting and doing everything we can in faith and the hope that one day it will be our turn. One day we’ll be the one with two pink stripes

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    Tanja Lötz

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    Hi Megan
    Thank you for sharing your story, and sorry for the path that you and your huaband has to walk. My bigest fear with IVF is that we might even get the money toghether but There are no gaurentees ever and I do not know if I will be able to go through another failed pregnancy again I have had 6 Miscarridges and 2 ectopic pregnancies. I can still fall pregnant with IVF but it is very expenive what if we never have the money togheter! I can not expect that my husband should take out a loan. I will not be able to live with myself if somthing goes wrong. Thank you for sharing your story.

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    Patience

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    Hang in there…I know exactly what you are going through, I have been married for three years and been trying for four years.infertility is the worst this a couple can ever go through. I am saving to go in May,I Pray it goes well.Goodluck

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      Saskia Williams

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      Hi Patience
      Thanks for your comment on Megan’s story. I have received an update from her and she is currently pregnant, which is great news!!

      I am sorry to hear about your struggles, would you like to share your story with us for our upcoming campaign in Feb? We are trying to show that Infertility doesn’t discriminate against race, age, sex, anything, it happens to everyone. If so, email me on saskia@ifaasa.co.za.

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