Advocate. Inform. Empower

You can’t control your age, or your partner’s age. However, if you would like to have a child, or more children, have this conversation sooner rather than later.

To the cheerleaders, the coaches, the fans on the sidelines, welcome.

I want to dedicate some space and time to reach out to you, the family and friends of my infertility sisters.

I know watching your loved ones deal with the pain that comes along with infertility is overwhelming, heartbreaking, even uncomfortable. I want to help. Ask me your questions, I won’t judge you. Let’s start a conversation.

By DW

When I first found out that, the reason that my wife and I weren’t conceiving, was due to me and my lack of quality sperm, it was definitely a blow. Not to my fragile male ego, or anything ridiculous like that, but more to my self-esteem. I had never smoked, or taken drugs and I didn’t drink nearly as much as youngsters do these days, so what on earth could the reason behind this possibly be? I also felt incredibly sad that I wouldn’t be able to give my wife what she dreamed of having, the natural way, that the only way we could achieve this dream would be with a barrage of tests and invasive infertility procedures. We were given less than 1% chance of conceiving naturally and so I wanted to smack the people who, for the past 6 years, have insisted on telling us to “relax and it will happen”.

Every day for the month of RHM, IFAASA would like you to meet our ‘unofficial Infertility Spokespersons’. Those in the public spotlight who have shared their struggles — with natural pregnancy, IVF, surrogacy, adoption, miscarriages, early menopause and the definition of parenthood — with the world.

Many chefs often look to the wisdom of their elders in food preparation. Our grandmothers made many foods we might view as strange and off-putting now, but many like to think of these foods as our lost ‘sacred’ foods.

Right now I have unexplained infertility. However, I am not particularly fond of that term. I prefer to think of it as “not having met my infertility yet.” Because I cannot honestly say that I have tried or tested everything, that I have done every diet and exercise regime, or that I have met with several REs on my path to my infertility discovery. I would love to try everything, meet everyone and get this situation solved for good – get me a baby already! But I also suffer from a particular sect of unexplained infertility – and that would be financial infertility.

No one likes to disclose their most personal problems, even to their doctor. With that said, some secrets should be told. These secrets shouldn’t be kept from your doctor, especially if you and your partner are trying to conceive.

Is there anything a man can do to enhance his fertility? This is such a great, important question that not enough couples ask. So often we get caught up focusing on female fertility that we completely forget to acknowledge the profound role men have in the baby-making game. The good news is, “Yes!” — there are plenty of things men can do to increase the odds of successful conception.

In years past, the perception has been that an inability to conceive was attributable to problems with the woman’s reproductive functionality. But researchers like Dr. Liberty Barnes at Cambridge University who recently published the book “Conceiving Masculinity: Male infertility, medicine, and identity,” contradict the idea that this is a women’s issue. Barnes says that of those millions of people trying without success to conceive a child, 30 percent are due female factors, 30 percent are male factors, 20 percent are a combination of male and female factors, and 20 percent of cases of infertility are simply unknown.

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