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Men and women often grieve differently.  The different kinds of reactions are all normal – there is no ‘right’ way to grieve. Often, men are problem solvers or instrumental grievers. That means they cope with grief through problem solving, such as making memorial service arrangements, helping care for the woman after she comes home from the hospital, or keeping the household running. Some men may even start a DIY project or get lost in a hobby.  For them, taking action is a way to heal.

What is a late miscarriage?

Doctors describe a late miscarriage as one that happens after 12 weeks and before 24 weeks of pregnancy. Late miscarriages are much rarer than early miscarriages. Just one or two per cent of all pregnancies end in a miscarriage in the second trimester of pregnancy. However, in reality, for many parents who have suffered a late miscarriage, the word “miscarriage” doesn’t properly capture the gravity and impact of their loss, as they may feel that they have suffered the loss of a baby, or a stillborn baby.

Understanding Infant Loss

Alexa Bigwarfe

I remember the first time I saw a photograph of a stillborn baby.

It was on one of the pregnancy website forums that I had joined for mothers that all had estimated due dates in April 2007. I was pregnant with my very first child, and the image disturbed and terrified me.

written by Lexi Behrndt

What do I say to you? How many words can I write? I’ve heard that a person needs to tell a story a few times to be healed. I’ll never finish telling yours, just like I’ll never finish missing you. That’s the way it should be, I suppose. After all, a mother never stops loving the child she carried.

“I have never felt happier or more in love than I did the day my daughter was born. My whole world changed that day—just as it did the day I suffered a miscarriage.

After every storm comes a rainbow—a sentiment that couldn’t be more true for parents welcoming an infant after experiencing a loss. A “rainbow baby” is one that follows a miscarriage, neonatal death, stillbirth, or infant loss—and they’re more common than you might think. Here are the stories of 3 mothers who  tell us about their own rainbow babies: Each mother went through unimaginable pain before welcoming a unique and beautiful miracle into her family. But if there’s something every single one of these mothers agrees on, it’s that those experiencing loss need to know that they aren’t alone.

By Lindsey Kupfer and Mara Siegler

Gabrielle Union opens up about race, sexual assault, family and even her fertility struggles with her husband, Miami Heat star Dwayne Wade, in her upcoming book, “We’re Going To Need More Wine.”

“I have had eight or nine miscarriages,” the 44-year-old actress reveals. “In order to tell you the exact number, I would have to get my medical records. (I am also not sure what the number is where you start to think I must be nuts for trying.)”

 Miscarriage: It’s a topic you never want to think about, let alone discuss, especially if you’ve struggled for so long to get pregnant. Sadly, it’s very common. According to the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG), about 15 to 20 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage or early pregnancy loss.

Coping with your feelings and with other people’s reactions.

From: American Baby

Having a miscarriage is a physically and emotionally difficult experience under any circumstance. But if you’ve been struggling with infertility or have had one or more miscarriages in the past, the loss can feel especially painful. Though time and comfort are often the best healers, it helps sometimes to understand the grief and mourning process that can accompany a miscarriage, and to know what you can do to start coping with your loss. Here’s how to begin.

Honouring a baby who dies in pregnancy or infancy

By Julie Beer

Christine Duenas lost her baby when she was 39 weeks and 3 days pregnant. She went into labor, but then something went terribly wrong. Before her baby could take her first breath, she died. Her daughter, Olive Lucy, whom Christine and her partner call Lucy, was stillborn.

You can’t control your age, or your partner’s age. However, if you would like to have a child, or more children, have this conversation sooner rather than later.

To the cheerleaders, the coaches, the fans on the sidelines, welcome.

I want to dedicate some space and time to reach out to you, the family and friends of my infertility sisters.

I know watching your loved ones deal with the pain that comes along with infertility is overwhelming, heartbreaking, even uncomfortable. I want to help. Ask me your questions, I won’t judge you. Let’s start a conversation.


When I first found out that, the reason that my wife and I weren’t conceiving, was due to me and my lack of quality sperm, it was definitely a blow. Not to my fragile male ego, or anything ridiculous like that, but more to my self-esteem. I had never smoked, or taken drugs and I didn’t drink nearly as much as youngsters do these days, so what on earth could the reason behind this possibly be? I also felt incredibly sad that I wouldn’t be able to give my wife what she dreamed of having, the natural way, that the only way we could achieve this dream would be with a barrage of tests and invasive infertility procedures. We were given less than 1% chance of conceiving naturally and so I wanted to smack the people who, for the past 6 years, have insisted on telling us to “relax and it will happen”.

Every day for the month of RHM, IFAASA would like you to meet our ‘unofficial Infertility Spokespersons’. Those in the public spotlight who have shared their struggles — with natural pregnancy, IVF, surrogacy, adoption, miscarriages, early menopause and the definition of parenthood — with the world.

Many chefs often look to the wisdom of their elders in food preparation. Our grandmothers made many foods we might view as strange and off-putting now, but many like to think of these foods as our lost ‘sacred’ foods.

Right now I have unexplained infertility. However, I am not particularly fond of that term. I prefer to think of it as “not having met my infertility yet.” Because I cannot honestly say that I have tried or tested everything, that I have done every diet and exercise regime, or that I have met with several REs on my path to my infertility discovery. I would love to try everything, meet everyone and get this situation solved for good – get me a baby already! But I also suffer from a particular sect of unexplained infertility – and that would be financial infertility.

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